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While he’s experienced much negativity, Pearson isn’t Dwelling on it.

He plans to continue forward with his career, and is surrounded by loving family and advocates.

(The Advocate) – For many years, Christian rocker Trey Pearson’s deep religious faith kept him closeted — but eventually, it helped him come out.

Pearson told the world he’s gay in a blog post last week, after having done the same, gradually, with friends, family, and himself. “A lot of it had to do with my perception of my faith,” he says of the process.

 

But Pearson finally realized he couldn’t live a dishonest life — or stay in his marriage to Lauren. “I was never going to be what she needed me to be as a husband,” he says. Her reaction to his revelation, he says, was supportive.“She was amazing,” he says. “She just hugged me and cried and told me how proud she was of me.” They are in the process of divorcing, but they remain best friends, Pearson says, as they were before they married, and he has a good relationship with his children.

Many of the other people in his life have been supportive as well, he says. Some of his family members are having some difficulty, but they’re all trying, Pearson says. And one of his sisters is a major equality advocate.

His fellow musicians have been terrific, he adds, as have many of his friends at church; he has attended both nondenominational and Wesleyan churches. And he purposely didn’t think about the impact on his career, he says, because that’s “not what it’s about.”

What it is about, he says, is living an honest life and helping others. Pearson wants to contribute to a conversation about LGBT acceptance in faith communities, and preach that the “clobber verses” in the Bible — those about homosexuality being an abomination and so forth — aren’t addressing committed gay relationships.

While he’s stared down some negative comments, particularly online, he’s not dwelling on them. “I know what an ignorant place that hate is coming from.”

His mentor on his coming-out journey has been Rob Bell, a progressive Christian author and former minister. Bell told him, “Remember, the truth is the safest place in the universe,” Pearson recalls.

Pearson plans to release a single in August and an album in the fall, with titles to be determined. He’s also performing at the Pride festival in his hometown of Columbus, Ohio, June 17, and he may appear at Pride events in other cities.

So Much for a Little Breathing Room

But Pearson finally realized he couldn’t live a dishonest life — or stay in his marriage to Lauren. “I was never going to be what she needed me to be as a husband,” he says. Her reaction to his revelation, he says, was supportive.“She was amazing,” he says. “She just hugged me and cried and told me how proud she was of me.” They are in the process of divorcing, but they remain best friends, Pearson says, as they were before they married, and he has a good relationship with his children.

Many of the other people in his life have been supportive as well, he says. Some of his family members are having some difficulty, but they’re all trying, Pearson says. And one of his sisters is a major equality advocate.

His fellow musicians have been terrific, he adds, as have many of his friends at church; he has attended both nondenominational and Wesleyan churches. And he purposely didn’t think about the impact on his career, he says, because that’s “not what it’s about.”

What it is about, he says, is living an honest life and helping others. Pearson wants to contribute to a conversation about LGBT acceptance in faith communities, and preach that the “clobber verses” in the Bible — those about homosexuality being an abomination and so forth — aren’t addressing committed gay relationships.

While he’s stared down some negative comments, particularly online, he’s not dwelling on them. “I know what an ignorant place that hate is coming from.”

His mentor on his coming-out journey has been Rob Bell, a progressive Christian author and former minister. Bell told him, “Remember, the truth is the safest place in the universe,” Pearson recalls.

Pearson plans to release a single in August and an album in the fall, with titles to be determined. He’s also performing at the Pride festival in his hometown of Columbus, Ohio, June 17, and he may appear at Pride events in other cities.

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